My Pregnancy Bucket List

I've seen so many things online about how much women treasure their first pregnancy - make memory albums, take photos, record every single little milestone. The joke goes that the more pregnancies the have the less you, and others, care about the pregnancy journey.

My experience has been the complete opposite. For Judah, I have probably less than ten photos of me pregnant with him. I had more, but they were taken on my wedding day (and therefore I haven't kept them). I definitely think I took my first pregnancy for granted and I'm not really sure why. Maybe because I wasn't a birth worker then. I do remember not wanting a fuss or to draw attention to myself, possibly because I was conscious of how young I looked.

When my marriage ended I had to face the hard reality that more children would be out of the question for me, perhaps for years. I had wanted another since Judah's first birthday. As my life was falling apart around me, as I was losing my home and my security, those I had been pregnant with the first time around were announcing their second pregnancies. I work with mothers and babies which was emotionally tough as I tried to make my peace with this. I donated all of Judah's clothes and baby equipment to charity and resigned myself to being a mother of one.

Then, this baby. I did not expect them to announce their arrival in my life just as my divorce was being finalised. This year has been one of the hardest years of my life but this baby has been a strong, shining focus point to make me keep going. I have made a conscious effort to celebrate every week, to do the things I never even thought to do the first time, being conscious now when I wasn't before that this could be the last time I get to do this. Having lost everything before, I take nothing for granted now. I have cherished this pregnancy. I am so so grateful to be able to have another child.

So bringing you my pregnancy "bucket list" which I just completed!

1.) Take a weekly photo
 

 It has been incredible to watch the weekly changes in my body, and also to see myself softening around my face (my favourite part of pregnancy!)

It has been incredible to watch the weekly changes in my body, and also to see myself softening around my face (my favourite part of pregnancy!)

2.) Do a proper announcement

 We chose to decline ultrasound which meant we had to get creative!

We chose to decline ultrasound which meant we had to get creative!

 We knew our announcement would be a shock for a lot of people (it was for us!) so we really enjoyed having these photos taken and sharing them on April 1!  Thank you so much to the amazing  Helen  and  Jaynie  for giving us such wonderful memories to keep.and share with the world.

We knew our announcement would be a shock for a lot of people (it was for us!) so we really enjoyed having these photos taken and sharing them on April 1!

Thank you so much to the amazing Helen and Jaynie for giving us such wonderful memories to keep.and share with the world.


3.) Have bump henna done

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 Thank you to the fantastic Zoe (Instagram: hennabyzoe) for doing this design for me. I had seen mothers with them in birth photography before and was in awe of how beautiful they were. The design lasted about two weeks and made me feel beautiful!

Thank you to the fantastic Zoe (Instagram: hennabyzoe) for doing this design for me. I had seen mothers with them in birth photography before and was in awe of how beautiful they were. The design lasted about two weeks and made me feel beautiful!


4.) Have a mother blessing
 

 Probably better known as a "hippy baby shower". We ate cake and drank tea and blessed and energised the birth space, talked about motherhood and bound ourselves with red cord around the wrist that we can only cut off when baby has arrived safely.

Probably better known as a "hippy baby shower". We ate cake and drank tea and blessed and energised the birth space, talked about motherhood and bound ourselves with red cord around the wrist that we can only cut off when baby has arrived safely.

 I wouldn't have had the confidence to do something like this first time around, and I didn't have the amazing women in my life then that I do now.

I wouldn't have had the confidence to do something like this first time around, and I didn't have the amazing women in my life then that I do now.

5.) Do a belly cast

 The kit was from Amazon and was really easy to do and good fun too :)

The kit was from Amazon and was really easy to do and good fun too :)

6.) Paint my belly

 My partner did this for his first baby and it was so much fun - just face paint that washed off but a nice way to celebrate the pregnancy just shy of 39 weeks.

My partner did this for his first baby and it was so much fun - just face paint that washed off but a nice way to celebrate the pregnancy just shy of 39 weeks.

7.) Have maternity photos done

 How amazing is  Helen ? 

How amazing is Helen

 I absolutely adore these photos and will treasure them forever.

I absolutely adore these photos and will treasure them forever.

8.) Hire a doula

 Couldn't justify the cost first time around but know the true value now. What better advertisement could there be than a doula hiring a doula?

Couldn't justify the cost first time around but know the true value now. What better advertisement could there be than a doula hiring a doula?